Hair Rules: It’s mine so stop asking!

Hey Queens,

Have you ever experienced someone walking up to you bypassing saying hi and asking if your hair belongs to you? Well, who else would it belong to? After surveying most of my friends I realized within my circle only the black women were accosted with this bold and unapologetically rude question, is that all your hair? Does it matter if all of the hair on my head belongs to me? If I said no, would this change your appreciation for my crown? If I said no, would this change your mind about complimenting me on my beautifully fluffed or laid crown? What are your intentions towards my crown? Did you think your unapologetically rude question would devalue the way I view my crown? Only you know the answer to your question. I believe your question and your intention is displaced and you're invading my right to privacy. 

Please let this serve as a reminder we have the right to protect the secret of our crown from the world. We have the right to reveal our crown secrets if we want to. Stop trying to invade our right to privacy. We are not ashamed of our desire to add extra to our crown. Adding extra does not denote we don't have hair. Some of us chose to allow our crown to be whatever we want it to be - short, bald, kinky, curly, straight, or locs. It all depends on what we feel like on any given day. 

Crowns are made be adorned! My black sistas stop asking other queens if their hair is real. If you are going to compliment your sista on her crown, then do so. To my white sistas stop asking our queens if their hair is real. If you are going to compliment us then do so.

Until next time queens...tip that crown.